We Must Teach Boys WHEN to Use Violence

  In high school, a friend of mine wrote a compelling essay, at least for a 17-year-old, about how young men are born to die. In it he explained...


In high school, a friend of mine wrote a compelling essay, at least for a 17-year-old, about how young men are born to die.

In it he explained that young men have an urge to save people using violence. It’s what drives us to war to fight for our country. It’s what motivates us to become cops and firefighters. This resonated with me, because going to high school less than a decade after Columbine, I often had fantasies.

I would find myself daydreaming in class about what I would do in a mass-shooting situation. I really did believe that I had the courage to find the assailant, to disarm him and to incapacitate him. I’d be a hero.

When put in the context of pop-culture, we’re taught that you’re either a savior or a criminal. As Batman nemesis Harvey Dent said:

“you either die a hero or live long enough to see yourself become the villain.”

Now that I’m a little older, I see how this line of thinking can be naive. But I would be lying if I didn’t say I still don’t have those fantasies. Often I’ll picture myself out at a bar and some ruffian has tried to pick a fight with someone in my group. I think about things I could say to defuse the situation while still demeaning this hooligan to establish my alpha male dominance.

If things were to escalate, I think about how I would defend myself with my fists.

Testosterone is a hell of a thing.

The majority of mass-shooting suspects are men. Of all the major shootings that have been covered by the mass media, I can’t think of a single criminal who’s a woman. I’m not saying women aren’t capable of being violent or they don’t think about being a savior, but the narrative is that there’s something wrong with young men. I have to agree.

I’m not a Michael Moore fan, but in his documentary Bowling for Columbine, he asks Marilyn Manson what he would say to the two shooters.

“I wouldn’t say a single word to them. I would listen to what they have to say and that’s what no one did,” Manson said.

If we’re going to address the problem of mass shootings, we have to acknowledge that young men are more predisposed to violence than women. It’s not a bad predisposition, though. It’s how we’ve won wars and protected our families for generations. If you go far enough back, it’s how we became the dominant species on this planet.

My father said:

“if mankind invents something, man will find a way to weaponize it.”

Mass shooters, serial killers, and anyone who uses violence unnecessarily is mentally ill. The short-term solution is taking guns away from them. The long term solution is teaching them when to use violence.

I want to live in a world where everyone has a gun and no one has a reason to shoot each other. This may seem idealistic, but it’s far more realistic than not addressing the problem young men face today. They still think they’re born to die.



Dave Hon is a journalist and award winning columnist (in Iowa, at least.) He's been working in the industry for at least ten years. He'll never date a feminist. Outside of his professional work he enjoys science fiction, beer and bathing in his white male privilege.
  • chewtoy2016

    I agree. This is what I say to those boys out there that are probably living in homes where the common misconception is that guns are bad and dangerous for people in the house: Get a gun. Learn how to manipulate it. Be prepared and stay safe. When seconds count, the police are just minutes away.

    • A Lion in Zion

      I couldn’t agree more. If you have a son with mental illness or suffers from depression get him some guns. Adam Lanza’s mother did that and never looked back. Most mass shooters have never held a gun and think they are bad. That is what causes them to use guns to commit mass murders or commit suicide. It is just common sense.

      • chewtoy2016

        No one is talking about giving guns to people to people with mental illnesses. Stop being fucking triggered about this and head back to some other site like Vox or Salon where you’re mindless straw man arguments are well received.

        • A Lion in Zion

          Lol! What a cuck.

  • Culturist John

    Did you know that for every 100 girls that are born, 108 boys are born? That is cause men are expendable and supposed to die in battle. it is an neuro-anthropological truth. And, as for who to target: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wR6w6_x9CXA

    • A Lion in Zion

      Maternal mortality rates were higher than war deaths thoughout nearly all of human history.


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